Being Single is a Crime.

That is just stupid. So so very stupid. Today a single friend of mine was telling me how she feels pressured because she's in her twenties and until now, she don't have alot of interactions with guys. Now, that is fine. That is normal actually. Because yes, it is understandable for us girls to worry. Its always a race against time, no? 

But what really pissed me off is how society pushes this really stupid idea that we cannot be absolutely happy unless we have a guy or we are in a relationship. That is just utter bullshit. Why do movies emphasizes on love and special someone(s) and relationships? Why do parents suddenly ask us "why don't you have a boyfriend?" Why do relatives say shit like "You need to meet someone. You're already (insert whatever age you are)"? Why do friends/ old schoolmates/ ex-teachers constantly ask us "Do you have a boyfriend?" and when your answer is no, immediately give you that "OMG YOU DON'T?!" expression and starts accusing you of not trying hard enough or not socializing or whatever.

Just why is love so overplayed? I mean, I am not dissing it. I think love is beautiful. Love is amazing and you are totally lucky if you've found someone to share such an amazing beautiful thing with. Many people like to boast that they're in a relationship. And that's fine. You're in love and you're happy. Who am I to stop you from boasting? Its totally fine until you start judging me or mocking me because I'm not in one. Like what do you expect me to say? "Congrats I guess? and may you have all the happiness in the world.."?

Because I don't get it. So what if you're in love? Do you win some prize? Like "Congratulations you're in a relationship! I'm sure your life is so much better than mine simply because you have a boyfriend and I don't. So here's a trophy."?? Can you just see how stupid that is?

I don't get this ridiculous obsession with love or relationship. It comes to a point where people start being depressed because they don't have a special someone to 'love'. And then, the people around them are totally not helping. Like they'll be like "Maybe you should do something about the way you look." or "Maybe you should try to be more lady-like" or "Maybe you should go mingle and try to find someone". HOW ABOUT MAYBE YOU JUST LET ME BE? 

Do you know why we always end up depressed? It's because we start to blame ourselves. See, our minds are our worst enemy. So it will constantly try to put you down. Reassures you of your insecurities, over-exaggerate your flaws, focus all your energy on all the negative things about yourself. We already have someone to fight against. Having friends or people around us who question and mock and criticize us for being single just adds on to all these. Now that's not very nice of you, right?

To me, love is always there. Its everywhere. We don't need just one person to focus all our love on. We don't need just one person to receive love from. Just because we are alone that don't immediately make us lonely. But you know what? Even if you feel lonely sometimes, SO FUCKING WHAT? IT'S PERFECTLY OKAY, NORMAL EVEN. You don't have to be single to feel lonely. You think people in relationships don't feel lonely meh? Just like how its stupid for anyone to say "you can't be 100% happy unless you have a boyfriend". Loneliness, Happiness, Sadness, they are just that. A FEELING. And feelings, they come and go. So don't push us. Don't say stuff like that because honest to God it pisses me off.

Last I heard people FALL in love. Like free-falling. Like cannot control kind of falling. Not like make yourself fall and stress when you don't succeed. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't then its alright. Its not the end of the world. Maybe just maybe, its not your time yet. So why worry? Why pressure us? Maybe one day, when all the stars align (OLOLOL so cliche), we will meet someone. We will fall in love. But what I want to say is, EVEN IF THAT DAY NEVER COMES, IT IS FUCKING FINE.

Its like wtf. We come into this world alone. And we will leave this world alone. So why issit so bloody wrong that we are living our lives on our own? It is not a crime to be single. I do understand that everyone wants to have someone special to love. So do I. But I am not going to let it control my life. You shouldn't too.

xoxo,

Haziqah